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‘Bachelorette’ star Trista Sutter says she’s ‘safe and sound’ amid husband’s cryptic posts about her absence

Trista Sutter is setting the record straight.

Amid speculation about her mental and physical health, the former reality star posted a lengthy explanation on Instagram Saturday.

“Geez people. Can’t a girl have a nervous breakdown/trial separation/midlife crisis/death/divorce in peace around here?! ????????,” she jokingly began alongside a photo of herself posing with husband Ryan Sutter and their kids, Maxwell, 16, and Blakesley, 15, in Mexico.

The former reality star explained that she had taken “an opportunity for perspective and personal growth.” Ryan Sutter/Instagram

Rumors began swirling when her husband, Ryan Sutter, shared cryptic posts on Instagram. Trista Sutter/Instagram

The “Bachelorette” alum, 51, explained that an “opportunity for perspective and personal growth” came along and she “chose [herself] and betterment, knowing that my stay-at-home-mom job and my kids end-of-the-school-year needs were in the best, most capable hands.”

Rumors began swirling earlier this month when Ryan, 49, posted a cryptic message on Instagram suggesting that Trista wasn’t with the family to celebrate Mother’s Day.

“I know you wish you were here for Mother’s Day,” he wrote. “We wish you were too. But sometimes being a mom means letting go of their hands, granting independence and stimulating their courageous spirit.”

On Mother’s Day, he wrote about Trista being apart from the family. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts

Days later, he explained that Trista is “at a place in life where she is searching a bit.” Ryan Sutter / Instagram

Two days later, he shared yet another post, explaining, “Trista is at a place in life where she is searching a bit. An opportunity presented itself that may help her on that quest.

“With her family’s support, she has taken it. Part of that process means that she is temporarily inaccessible to us.”

On Sunday, the firefighter revealed he had been reunited with his wife.

Trista criticized news outlets for calling Ryan’s posts “cryptic.” ABC via Getty Images

She added that she is “happy and healthy, in love and grateful.” Getty Images for Sandals Resorts

“They say absence makes the heart grow fonder…. We found out it’s true. It also makes the heart more grateful, more sympathetic, more appreciative for what someone does for you, with you, alongside of you,” he captioned a family photo.

“It brings questions and wonder and worry and then answers and peace and celebration. It brought time for reflection, for projects, prayer and independence but mostly it brought joy at its conclusion. Real joy. And that’s really what it’s all about.”

Meanwhile, Trista criticized news outlets for calling out her husband’s “cryptic/confusing/attention-seeking/dramatic” posts.

The couple met on “The Bachelorette.” AP

They married in 2003 and share two children. 2003 ABC, INC.

She said, “To me, they gave me exactly what my Words of Affirmation love language needed to get me through some serious self doubt and fear…and that’s all that matters. He doesn’t owe anyone any explanation or require permission to post what he wants to post and share what he wants to share.”

Trista added that she’s “safe and sound, happy and healthy in love and grateful ????. For those who’d rather focus on being critical and searching way too hard for darkness, good luck with that.”

Trista and Ryan are the longest-standing couple from “The Bachelor” franchise. They married in 2003 after meeting during Trista’s season of “The Bachelorette.”

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